The Cornell 7: Four Patterns Behind Campus Sexual Assault
Summary
The Cornell 7 didn’t come out of nowhere. Situations like this are built, and the patterns behind them show up on campuses again and again.
Mandi, certified victim advocate, breaks down the four patterns that build it. Drawing on her college keynotes on ending victim blaming, Mandi also shares how men can step in as allies instead of protectors, how to start these conversations with your partner and kids, and a message for survivors “I am Jane Doe” who are finding the headlines hard right now.
Resources
@ A Call to Men - Instagram account helping men learn to be allies and help prevent violence against women
@ Hassl - Instagram account sharing how men can be better allies
Previous Episode: Ending Victim Blaming, Creating Safer Communities - Mandi's college keynote / what students actually shared
Previous Episode: Masculinity with Dr. Saeed - Dr. Saeed shares how he stepped in safely using curiosity
Previous Episode: Safe Bystander Intervention with Kelly of Peer Praxis - How to safely intervene when something feels wrong
Previous Episode: Teaching Kids Boundaries - How to talk with young kids about consent and boundaries, including the "Hulk smash" story
Previous Episode: Complex PTSD and Healing - Mandi shares the tools that help her
(Stats from CDC NISVS / CDC / Global News / ThePrint)
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Approximate Timestamps
[00:00] Intro and wishing Jane Doe peace, safety, and justice
[01:30] Mandi's campus keynotes and why this episode focuses on patterns
[02:30] What happened: the Cornell Seven lawsuit
[04:00] Why trauma delays and changes reporting
[07:00] Why the reaction is so big: the stats on violence against women
[08:30] Pattern 1: Victim blaming and what consent really means
[11:00] Pattern 2: DARVO (deny, attack, reverse victim and offender)
[12:30] Pattern 3: Institutional betrayal and Cornell's reporting numbers
[15:30] Pattern 4: Power and control, and how culture builds people who cause harm
[17:00] Silence is harm: Dr. Saeed's example of stepping in with curiosity
[19:00] Men as allies, not protectors
[20:00] Talking about the Cornell Seven with your partner and kids
[22:00] Teaching young kids consent: the "Hulk smash" story
[23:30] A message for survivors and moment of peace
The primary purpose of the Women Aware and Prepared Podcast is to educate and inform. This podcast series does not constitute advice or services. Please use common sense for your own situation.
